Category: Dating and Relationships
Hi all just wondering what gets on your nerves when it comes to peoples dating styles. Mine are when people dump their current partner selfishly to be with another or try to date more than one person at a time. I also can't stand it when people don't give themselves time to heal from the previous relationship and move on right away. It also gets to me when people date someone that they really don't want to be with to make the person that they really want jealous to sway the person they really want to finally come to them. It is really sad these days how people get greedy and can't be happy with who they are with. Tell me what you guys think.
I agree with everything you've said...and I'd like to emphasize:
People who move on right away only add more baggage and that's a load of shit.
These are the people who believe that a fuck helps you forget.
Again, a load of shit.
i am not sure if this is the right subject to post this in but if some one could please explain? why does some one tell you they want to be with you. and they will be that kind of person that will treat you right. and so on and so forth. and then disappear? with no explaination. and ignore you when you try to get one out of them. but they don't have the guts to tell you they don't really don't want to be with you. and have to lie to your face? when actually they are out looking for some one else behind your back. thanks
little pooh bear
The worst thing people do when dating is talk to someone three times on the zone and declare true love, even if they will never realistically meet in person! LOL
Lol. I agree. I also don't get people who start a relationship with someone just to avoid being alone. If there's no emotional connection, then it's not a real relationship.
agree with everyone. people who go looking for love don't know what they're doing. you have to wait for the right person.
I agree with all of you. In the last 2 days I have been in deep conversation with a couple of people about this very topic. I am particularly irritated with a certain person who I mutually know with my conversation partners and it really pisses me off when they and others do everything you all have mentioned above. Why do so many view being alone as so bad? I am married but not afraid to be alone. Although not what I want, I'd be ok but I like myself. I think that those who are afraid are so because they really don't like the person they are. You have to love yourself and believe in yourself before someone else will. That brings me to the constant searching for the next great screw. Jumping from relationship to relationship because your not satisfied or feel neglected so you go looking for the quick fix? It never works. We have all made mistakes but to continue the selfdestructive pattern without any regard for anyone elses feelings is pathetic and morally reprehensible. Also to someone elses post on talking a big talk then not walking the walk, To those that do that I say get some porn or join a group. Don't try to be what your not, make promises that you have no intention of keeping and mindlessly seek out relationships that you know you will only destroy as soon as it becomes mundane and or complicated. Just my opinion but the very best relationships go through lulls and difficulties, it's riding the rough waters that make a great relationship and truely listening and careing even if you don't agree. Also, a closing notes, if you feel that someone is giving you a line of shit, they probably are. Go with your gutt it usually never lies. Hugs!
lol Agreed with Leaffan on this one. People who are eager to find love tend to do the craziest things. I know someone who says they are in love but the other person lives on the other side of the world from them. This person's partner doesn't want to visit her until he makes the big move to America because if he visits her during the summer or something, saying goodbye would be hard and he doesn't want to deal with that when he goes back home. But isn't saying a physical goodbye a part of what you have to deal with in a long distance relationship? I don't know but I think it's a good thing for people who are in a serious and committed relationship to be able to physically be with each other so it's just not a voice on the phone they're dating. I know a few couples on here who have had to do just that and yeah it was hard but they dealt with it. I care a lot about this person. She's heading to college in the fall and there was so much she used to look forward to. But now it seems like all she does is talk on the phone while struggling to pay her phone bill. It makes me a little sad because my best friend is starting to resent me. I try so hard to understand her. I know she says she's happy but I can't help thinking that if he isn't willing to put in the time and money to see her it is just a waiste of time. If you read this, please forgive me and just know that I care about you a lot and writing this out really settled my feelings on this matter.
I love you.
Showe
I think it depends on whether you're dating or just looking for a friend with benefits. When I was single, I had fwbs. They knew it and were fine with it. But now that I'm in a relationship, I'm only with one man. When I was single, I had no problems flirting and joking about sex. Now, although I still joke to some extent, flirting makes me uncomfortable if it's meant seriously. I also hate those people on Skype who chat with me and the first or second time we speak, declare htier undying love for me and say they'll do anything for me etc, especially when I tell them I already have a boyfriend and am uninterested. Personally, I also don't agree with dating and no sex, unless there are health problems or something. Of course, different people have their own opinions on that last one, but for me, having a bf means having a good time, allbeit safely.
I think, that it's discutable thing about leaving something and instantly getting new partner.
It depends:
imagine - you are dating with somebody. It's getting worse - he/she is cheating or smething like that. You got some debates and something like that.
Finally, you stop to date with him/her.
WHY TO WAIT A MONTH TO GET SOMEONE ELSE? We are living only one life!
Yes, it's okay in ethical site, but I think, that some looong time is wast of time.
To post 7, awesome words. The only thing I don't agree with is that bullshit line that I hear people say that "no one can love you until you love yourself." What, so a person can't fall in love with you if you have some insecurities? Don't we all to some point? Some people don't have the time for a person with a few problems, but honestly, everyone has their flaws, it doesn't make you any less lovable. I fact, I don't think it's true love until the person has accepted you, flaws and all. This doesn't mean a person should tolerate abuse, but it does mean that if someone has some little insecurities, or minor jealousy, the other person isn't going to run away from it. I guess that's my pet peeve with dating, the fact that as soon as things get deep, some people choose to run away rather than help you through a hard time, or expect you to change your entire personality just because that's what they like. You shouldn't waste your time on somebody like that.
No don't date the girl/guy you want to change. If it's a sexual thing say so up front, don't promise devoted love to get in her pants. And please you can't love me if you've never spent time with me in person. You can love the thought of me, my voice, my thoughts, but you do not know me until we have to spend time together and can not just hang up when we get tired of talking. :) Long distance is not for me. I'm a sexual person completely, so need to touch her some. I'll travel true, but it has to be doable easy and offten. As far as moving on I think that's healthy. You can't get her/him back, so why mope?
Definitely, I would never date someone I only knew through the Internet either.
I know a boy, I don't want to say a name, but he heard my voice one time and then said he'd be in love with me. If this wouldn't be the worst thing, I told him I already had a boyfriend and after one month he dated another person and as she left him after a few weeks or even days there was another person he is dating!
and another guy always told me on here I'd have a sexi voice and I would be such a sweetheard and so on but we just send voicemails and once my randomizer picked him randomly and he started to say I would be such a sweetheard and then he said "oh, you already have someone" and after that I asked him if he thought we could have a relationship and then he said he realy thought like that and I asked him if he is in love and suddenly he loged out or got invisible or something and never again spoke to me after that and he was 28 years old and behaves like a little child and I am 16 years old!
both of this never could be true love, they just are searching for a girlfriend and nothing else and it doesn't matter how old she is or where she comes from and things like that suck and I can't talk to such a person.
one guy thought i'd be in love with me just because I told someone he is nice and just because he things he is the only lovable person he was such a person who often showed off and then he told the whole world I would be such a silly person and I would love him and I never told him things like that!
that also sucks if people think they're the only ones on the whole wide world and everyone'd be in love with them if they thought thei're nice
I hope you get what I want to say
sharpay
sorry have to correct a line, was saying he tought I would be in love with him not with me lol!
I don't have any problems with any style. They can date however they like and it would be their right, but there is one in particular that I am not too fond of.
I can not stand the folks who dates a guy just because, and doesn't like them. Then, they come crawling to me or other friends complaining to us. Come on now, just don't date him then, simple as hell.